“GUYS”….aren’t they sweet…!!!

Okay…so all those heart broken young ladies who would have said “BULLSHIT” as soon as they read the heading of my article….take a break…and just like me…give it a thought…

You all must be wondering who would waste time and write an article on this topic…well I would…because I believe that it was needed to be done…as many of my young girl friends have lost faith in LOVE n BOYS…so now tell me…isn’t it a reason enough…*WINKS*

Tired and exhausted, when I entered my room, I saw my friend crying on her pillow…and it was the old same story…her so called DOUCHE BAG boyfriend dumped her….a week or so passed by and she dint get over it…and all this was taking a toll on me…it was really sad to see her in that condition…that’s when this crazy thought struck me…ARE BOYS REALLY THAT BAD…???

Many girls would agree and ALL THE BOYS WONT…..lol situation….and it was my time to decide as to whose side should i support…and obviously I chose the latter…no offense girls…I owe you an explanation and that’s exactly why I am writing this article...

Most of my young guys n gals have experienced the so called LOVE in their lives atleast once…n as far as I am concerned…”BEEN THERE DONE THAT”….the feeling of NEW LOVE is beautiful n divine…isn’t it…pouring your heart out to someone special…all the late night chit chats…d feeling of possessiveness…all the romantic/crazy dates…those tears of joy n sorrow….everything just makes it perfect…you are happy…your guy/girl is happy…and it feels like you have found everything that you always wanted…but but but….waitttt……BREAK UP….yes that is when you realize that everything you did was worthless and you cry your eyes out till you exhaust and go to sleep….!!!

We stop thinking about all the good times that we spent together and to make things worse, our mind starts supporting all the worse case scenarios…we see evil in each and every next guy who throws a smile towards us…I am sure that everyone who has suffered a break up in their life would have used this line once in their life- “I will never fall in love again, it sucks..”…and those who haven’t…wait for it…

My question to all these people is…are u sure LOVE (guys) really sucks…???...think twice before you answer…because if your answer is YES then you need a reminder…you are just being biased because HE broke your heart…but tell me something…have you forgot what all HE DID for you..???...

Yes he was there when you needed a shoulder to CRY ON n talk about all the bad things that this world has bestowed upon you…remember that guy who used to carry all your shopping bags when you were busy surfing every single brand in the mall…yes I agree he checked out the lingerie showrooms while passing by it…but dint you check out that cute guy who caught your attention…and yes how can we forget that surprise romantic date that he took you to just to see a smile on your face…he was not interested in what your bitch girl friend did to you but still he listened to everything you got to say about her quietly…and at times, even gave suggestions as to how to tackle her….recall that HUG he gave you…his arms felt like the safest place on earth…and to be honest…it is the most safest place…when you know you are with your Mr.RIGHT…you will feel it…and yes girl he was their to cheer you up when you were sick and hold your hands to let you know that you will be fine soon….look at that old ROSE that you kept in your diary…who gave it to you…??? Remember how you felt when he did that for you..?? ( I know why you have this smile on your face right now)….and wait…that fight..when some random guy tried to harass you….yes your guy was there to protect you….n fine I agree that he ignored you for his FIFA n DOTA video games because he thought it was his ONLY battle ground to prove himself, but dint you ignore him for your favorite TV shows, shopping, parlor appointments, girls night/day out, etc..??..

I need not point out every single thing that your GUY did for you…because I just needed to remind you that he did some good things for you and gave you memories that you will cherish through out your life….things dint work out between you two and the blame is on him- “guys are EVIL”…if they were, you wouldn’t have experienced all those beautiful memories….they just get lost in their own space at times and end up hurting you in the ways they dint mean to…you will ask me…what about the guys who cheated on you with some other girl…but we too know the reality…we are not those angels from heaven..pure…because he cheated on you with some other girl that means that some other BITCH was involved too…but nobody would blame her…cause she has the power of TEARS and advantage of being a girl…and your guy…he will learn sooner or later that being a PLAYBOY is out of fashion…girls now a days respect those guys who stand up for their LADY….and if you are with someone who doesn’t gives a damn about what you did in your past or what you are doing in your present…- then here’s an ALERT for you…she too is just using you as a tool for her pleasure…so don’t get all happy about the hot chick who smiled back at you…she will be gone before you know it…!!!

So i would suggest, to all my girl friends out there, respect the man in your life and don’t try to find reasons to blame him for what he did and what he dint for you…try to find a common ground where both of you have your own space…guys are not that BAD afterall…they just need to be reminded what they actually are…telling them they are pathetic will just worsen the situation…

And yes guys…I took your side..wrote a whole article on you…but that doesn’t mean you keep smiling like morons….get up and take your lady to that beautiful date that she deserves…afterall she is the QUEEN of your only EMPIRE….:)

Don’t Hesitate…or REGRET…!!!

I was chatting with one of my friends, and he asked me- “what kinda guy you want in your life..??”…I smiled at the question. It wasn’t something new that someone had asked me….i came across this question a lot of time in my life…I answered the question too…but never sincerely….coz I myself dint know what kinda guy I wanted…above all I thought how would it even matter, I’m never gonna find such a guy…!!!

but what if I could..???

it was one crazy dream which woke me up at 4 in the morning….i sat on my bed looking outside the window…the view was beautiful, it was full moon…I started listening to my favorite track , as I couldn’t get back my sleep….and I don’t know how but this question popped up in my head…it kept on repeating itself….” Karishma, what kinda guy you want…??..” I dint wanted to answer that question coz no matter how much I tried I never found the correct answer…or may be coz I thought it wasn’t even important to find an answer to this question…it was lame I thought…!!!

But the night was different today…I argued myself…what if it was important…??...

I have been in love…passionately…the memories are bitter-sweet…I never wanted to let it go…but things dint work out the way I wanted them to…I was hurt, broke and depressed…I just couldn’t understand what happened…one moment we were happy and madly in love…and with a blink of an eye it was all over…after that, it never realy mattered what kinda guy I wanted…I was too afraid to fall in love again….or may be coz I was a coward….it takes a lot of courage to fall in love…opening up your heart to someone…giving them all you have…knowing that you can /will get hurt…history has it that all the great love stories were broken…( romeo-juliet, heer-ranjha, laila-majnu ) they could never be together…

But then I asked myself…for how long am I prepared to run away from it…??..i know…every one reading this would have asked themselves the same question…why am I so afraid to fall in love…why am I so afraid to tell myself that its time that I need that SOMEONE SPECIAL in my life again…

For many of us the real question would be- “ are we afraid of the rejection..???”…and all my ladies out there, they don’t speak their heart out coz we think “I’m a girl…I’m not supposed to go first…its against the rules…guy proposes and I respond…that’s how it works..” but for how long are you prepared to play the blind fold…are you ready to see the love of your life go away in front of your eyes…are you ready to accept the fact that you could have been with the guy/girl of your dreams if only you had Believed and had taken that leap of faith…

I am not ready to take that leap of faith yet…coz I need to ask myself first that what am I looking for…and it took me quite a while to figure out what kinda guy I wanted…

Starting from the obvious, ofcourse I want someone who will love me, care for me…make me smile when I’m low and support me through all my hardships…that was clichéd…I know…
Now what I really want is someone who will respect me for what I am…someone who is prepared to accept me inspite of all my flaws…coz I am not someone easy to tame…I’m a taurean afterall….*winks*…

I don’t want to be his queen…but I want to be the only lady love in his life…I don’t want him to shower me with expensive gifts …but I would want him to atleast gimme a rose everyday so that I know I’m loved…I don’t want him to keep me happy always…but I want that he should never be the reason behind my tears….i am not expecting him to be perfect…but I want him to be a man and take responsibility for the mistakes he made…I don’t want him to do everything that I say, but I want him to atleast full fill the promises that he made…i don’t want him to compliment me every now and then but I want him to be proud of me…I don’t want him to say he is lucky to have me but I want to know that I mean the whole world to him and that he wouldn’t dare loose me…I don’t want him to buy me diamonds all the time…but I want him to take me to those romantic dates which I deserve…I don’t want him to give a beautiful speech about me in public, but I want him to take my stand when someone is trying to give me hard time…I don’t expect him to be polite to me all the time but he should atleast have the decency to not yell at me in public and wait for the right time to tell me my mistakes…I don’t want him to tell me I am hot or sexy, but I want him to let me know that I’m the woman he always dreamt of….i don’t want him to give me all his 24hrs…but I want him to have the decency to not abandon me for his personal pleasures when he knows I would be lonely and waiting for him…I don’t want him to not make mistakes, but I want to know that he is genuinely sorry when he makes one…and the most important thing, I would want him to treat my parents as his own…i want him to love them and respect them…for they gave their most important treasure, their daughter to him..!!!

Too much to ask..???...well that’s what I would want in my guy…:)…and when I find someone like this…I’ll be ready to take my leap of faith…and I wouldn’t hesitate to tell him that he is all that I always wanted.

So, to all my readers, what kinda guy/girl do you want..??? and are you ready to take your leap of faith…!!!

And when you find the love of your life…don’t forget to communicate your feelings…coz..

“IF YOU HESITATE-YOU REGRET”…!!!

NO MEANS NO...!!!!

So here i am......once again...!!!

After such a long time...something very despairing caught my attention and made me take out some time from my busy and hectic schedule....i cant even start to express how sad it makes me to see such cases happening every now and then around us...

Yes...i am talking about the DELHI RAPE case....it left a great impact on me....i questioned myself that what if something like that would have happened to me...what would i have done...and the answers were agitating...Rape is the only crime in which the victim becomes the abused...!!

We talk about politics, our corrupt government, lack of literacy in the country, modernization, etc etc....but they remain JUST TALKS....we are so depended on our government to take action but what will such a government answer who can keep a TERRORIST in jail for 4 years...??? what will such a government answer who beats d hell out of innocent youngsters who go on strikes just to get their voices heard and demand JUSTICE....who says women should not wear provocative dresses rather then encouraging men to treat them with respect....who says eating Chinese food is the reason behind the rape cases( after hearing this statement i lost all my patience )....

We are told not to wear provocative dresses....not to go out late nights, not to work in places with less female population ( coz the chances of getting raped increases), not to laugh out loud coz that will make you look bold and give a green signal to the lunatics creeping on you.....

But i ask...why US...?? why the victims are suggested what not to do instead of the desperadoes roaming out there in open....

I don't know if my sympathies would make the poor girl feel any better....only thing that could satisfy her raging pain would be to grant her the authority to take a decision as to what punishment she wants to give to these desperate animals who ruined her life....

soon after i posted on my Facebook wall that WE NEED REAL LAWS....people started sending me suggestions as to what can be done to stop such heinies crimes....and i wasn't surprised to hear what they had to say....

some said they should be hanged till death..
or we should bring in d SAUDI LAWS in our country- " u steal, we cut your hand, u rape we cut your prick, you lie we cut your tongue and so on.."...

I don't know if our democratic government is still ready to inforce such laws in our country...but i request...whatever they decide to do...atleast bring justice to the victims of such crimes.....they have gone through something which changed their life forever...some victims may come out of the trauma someday but some people will just breathe it out.....

" IF THERE IS A TIME WHEN YOUR WALLS COULD GUARD US....THEN LET THAT TIME BE NOW"..

NO i am not some revolutionary, NGO worker, spokes person of some group, or a social activist....i am just the "AAM JANTA" ......who wants to live in peace...who wants to reach home safely without having to fear about getting raped....who wants to achieve her dreams someday and make her family and friends proud....who wants this world to be a better place to live in....!!!

P.S- " DON'T TELL YOUR DAUGHTER NOT TO GO OUT, TELL YOUR SON TO BEHAVE PROPERLY COZ WE ARE NOT AN OBJECT FOR HIS ENTERTAINMENT".....!!!